Having children have negative and positive effects on your marriage. Today, we shall examine the way children make your marriage even better.
You get closer: Couples have reported that they feel closer to their partner after having a child. This could be because the man has a new found respect for his wife after watching her carry and bear a child while the woman can fall in love with her husband all over again as she watches him hold and soothe their child.
You are more patient with each other: Marriage tests your patience, and having a baby tests it even more. When you have an infant in your home, you find that you need to handle that responsibility with a lot of patience. This will also teach you to be the same with your partner.
You bond more: Not only do you get closer to your partner after baby, you also have something you can both bond over – your love for your child. Even if you did not have much in common before, or you were finding it difficult to see eye to eye on some things, you now know for a fact that there is one thing you will always have in common – wanting the best for your child(ren).
Quality time: When you have children, you no longer have the luxury of spending a lot of time with each other as a couple so you know that any time you do have for yourself, you spend it well. You understand the value of spending quality time with each other. So, if you had to have a babysitter to look after your kid so you can be with your partner for a couple of hours, you will find that you will not waste such time.
Make positive changes: Couples have found that having children gives them the motivation to make important changes in their lives. They could give up vices like drinking, smoking, excessive partying, drug using, etc. Some even begin to exercise more and eat better so they can set a better and healthier example for their babies.
New things to talk about: When a couple have been together for a while, they start to have less and less to talk about. But as soon as they have children, they have a whole new topics of conversation. They share more about their childhood, they exchange ideas about children discipline ideas or they can just revel in how cute and smart their child is.
Feel like a family: As soon as a couple have a child, they start to feel more like a family. You feel more like a part of this important family unit and this gives you the feeling of stability.